What song should I sing?

What song should I sing?

What song should I sing?

W R I T T E N  B Y  Allison Mondel

This simple question can leave you wandering around for years:

What song should I sing??

Our attitude towards choosing repertoire is informed by many things: your tastes, your musical interests, your professional aspirations, your mood.

On the surface, the selection of one song does not seem like a big deal. But it can quickly lead to overwhelm. Why?

Because we attach so much of ourselves, and our worthiness, to what we sing. Questions abound about whether this is right for me; where will I ever perform this; does this define who I am as a human being; will people think I am strange or reaching too high or playing it too simple; will I be hired; will I be capable?

My friend, this is a lot to hold for one song. I know the feeling, though. Overwhelm is real, and in most cases it leads to inertia. If we cannot commit, we then leave this choice to someone else (like your voice teacher!), who may choose something out of alignment for you. 

Choosing your repertoire does not need to be so emotionally laborious, if you are able to break down the process and reframe your approach.

When I worked as a voice teacher at the National Cathedral, I had to choose gajillions of songs for my students every semester, year after year. Out of necessity, I became nimble at selecting songs for each student, personally suited to each voice, personality, and desired musical and vocal goals.

I liken this process to wearing the Sorting Hat at Hogwarts: using my intuition, I would say the person’s name in my mind, and hear the title, or a composer’s name, or a genre, or some little breadcrumb that would lead me to some definitive choices for that student. I was not overwhelmed by the choosing, because I did not have any existential questions about their vocal futures! I was trying to serve their best and highest interest. 

When we are young, or are beginners, we are always going to look to our teachers for guidance. If you have had any musical training at all, this is pro forma, and an important way to learn about repertoire, your aptitudes, skills, and tastes. 

But what happens when you feel that inner pull towards something else? (I know you have.) Maybe something that other people either would not approve of, or agree with, or recommend? Or even something your past self would not understand.

Maybe you feel pulled towards something you don’t know about yet? A new genre, perhaps, or something else that is causing you to step outside of the box, or leading you into a new career path. Scary, right? Overwhelming?

That makes perfect sense. But let’s break this down. First of all, let us celebrate your urge to make your own music! This is a crucial first step on your voice journey, and as far as I am concerned, is totally awesome.

Your sacred voice is calling you to your purpose.

And then… stop. Wait. Where do you go from there? 

This is where you are bombarded with all of those questions.

First of all, choosing one song does not determine your worthiness, or your career path, or your entire Self. It is one song. 

A song does not define you. A song is a piece of art, created by another person, or people. You do not need to conquer a song. You enter into a creative relationship with a song. And guess what? Songs need singers to sing them. That’s you, my friend! 

I believe that a song chooses you, as much as you choose a song.

I also know that other people have told you what songs you should sing. This may have been for very Good Reasons. I have chosen many songs for people to sing, all for the greater good of the student.

But as you evolve, you will notice – and feel – that the creative choices of other people and organizations are no longer aligned for you.

Because as a creative person, you are going to need to choose the musical vehicle for your own transformation, growth, and personal expression. That may be very different than what you know. That may intimidate you because it means stepping out of the  only box you know. (Thank you, classical voice training.)

My friend, I applaud you. This is a big leap, and it is important. It feels scary, because it means you are reaching into a new level, and stepping closer towards your calling to use your voice in the world.

So when you feel overwhelmed, know that something big is moving through you. You are ready to make a leap for your voice, and yourself.

Not that I am any kind of authority, but if it helps, I give you full permission to sing whatever your Higher Self calls you to sing. Whether that means a big change, or something you never would have done before, or seems like a reach, or goes against everything your teacher has told you. 

You must trust your own intuition and inner guidance. You must honor the force within you that says, “this song is calling to me.” Or follow your hunch to listen to something, or find the sheet music, or ask about something.

You may actually have to break some damn rules. 

It is only by honoring our inner voice that we discover our true purpose. We must learn to recognize and shed the voices that hold us back. Sometimes they are the voices of others. More often it is your own Ego Voice, keeping you safe from unleashing that magnificent force you have held within you, but without a clue as to what to do, and hoping you will not actually die from choosing a song.

So we don’t choose at all. We would rather circle in a state of indecision than choose one, single, two-and-a-half-minute song that could make us shift into a state of being that is amplified, but unknown. Refreshed and quenched, but terrifying. Maybe even happy.

A song does not define you. A song helps you discover the best things about your voice. A song is a container for you to develop your artistry. 

Try not to read any further. No existential crisis required. Just pick up a song. Literally any song. And follow your inner voice to what is next.

Hugs,

allison

welcome to
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I’m Allison Mondel, Transformational Voice Coach on a mission to help others discover their innate, brilliant Sacred Voice, and transform their singing and their lives.

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on being capable: an essential teaching

on being capable: an essential teaching

on being capable: an essential teaching

W R I T T E N  B Y  Allison Mondel

For some years now I have been exploring the nature of the “sacred voice.”

This concept is not new, and it is certainly not mine. It is an aspect of our Self that I believe we all, at some deep level, are called to express in our lives, on this earthly plane, for some very purposeful reason.

At the everyday, mundane, get-up-and-go-to-work level, it can seem quite elusive. The pursuit of this soul-fueled creative voice can truly seem untouchable, or fickle. Sometimes it seems to tease us into believing that maybe, just maybe, my voice is truly worthy of expressing something sacred? And then it seems quite the opposite.

Well, I can say with certainty that our voice is not a trickster. Sacredness is inherent, it is constant, it is… Truth. What is not constant is our capacity to hold space for the power of our sacredness.

What does that mean in terms of our voice? How does that affect our singing practice?

It comes down to feeling capable, steady, and trusting.

I want to share one of my most essential teachings with you:

Most singers tend to believe that they are not capable enough, so they doubt themselves and lose trust in their voice.

But the reality is that singers have not learned how to harness and trust the intense, powerful energy of their voice and fully access their sacredness.

What does it mean to hold space for the true power of your voice?

It means to become a vessel for your voice. To allow your voice to flow through you freely, without hindrance from ego and fear.

Here is the process broken down:

1) Acknowledge your sacred nature.
2) Become aware of the force of energy moving through you. The vehicle is the breath.
3) Allow the movement of this breath energy to be constant and free-flowing.

Let’s be really clear here: I know this is not as easy as it sounds. Your throat might be scratchy, or you are tense, or you are scared, or any distraction may abound to throw you off-track. You may have deep-seated, subconscious fears that hinder you. This is normal and to be expected. But it is not permanent. It is not truth.

Ultimately, our practice is to allow the full expression of our voice even when we doubt our capacity. Even when we are unsure.

When you allow this expression, when you have the courage and will to allow this powerful force to move through you unhindered, something miraculous happens.

You will become a magus. 

You will be transformed from one who does not believe they can, to one who knows they can, and does. You become the vessel of this powerful energy moving through you. And you discover that your voice, in its inherent sacredness, is innately capable.

When you feel capable, you will trust your voice.

The next time you feel yourself halt, or pull back, or flinch, or become tense, take a moment to recognize why that might be. Ask yourself:

What powerful force am I resisting right now?
Why am I resisting?
What would happen if I let my resistance down in this one moment?

If you can remove your resistance, even in one small, everyday moment, you will allow for some of the greatest breakthroughs in your practice. I call them mini-miracles. These teeny-tiny “awarenesses” are the building blocks of your transformation. Please do not discount them. Indeed, rely on them!

If I can shift your perspective in any way, I want you to know this:

Not feeling capable does not mean that anything is wrong with your voice. Indeed, I would posit that there is something so deeply powerful that is trying to move through you, and it is scary as hell.

But your voice is not meant to be controlled. It is meant to be released.

It is your very own sacredness in sound. It is a gift, my friend, for you to give to the world. Even a teensy little bit at a time is worth its weight in gold.

Hugs,

allison

welcome to
The Studio!

I’m Allison Mondel, Transformational Voice Coach on a mission to help others discover their innate, brilliant Sacred Voice, and transform their singing and their lives.

take the quiz!

Discover your path forward into feeling more capable and trusting in your singing.

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reclaiming your sacred nature

reclaiming your sacred nature

reclaiming your sacred nature

W R I T T E N  B Y  Allison Mondel

I am trained as a classical musician, still working in the field and meeting the demands of the work in various ways every day.

But I have long felt a disconnect from the overly technical approach to vocal training. Please do not misread this: I LOVE vocal technique. If I have one wish, it is for the most excellent, adept, fantastic, easeful vocal technique that ever was. 

However.

My pursuit of excellence in my craft is not at odds with my desire to pursue my sacred purpose. Nor should it be that way for you.

But I believe that we are at odds with the sacred purpose of our voice when we place the technical requirements and demands above the essence of our nature as singers: we are souls!

We have a voice to express our inner nature, and I believe that is of sacredness. 

I believe our voice knows how to function *perfectly* well when we tap into its sacred nature. That our technical approach is not an overlay of forced effort, but rather a removal of artificial tension. Thereby revealing the essence of the voice, and allowing the flow of the sacred through us. 

If you struggle with the expectation of Doing Things Right, then this is my wish for you:

Please do not fret about your technique. Do not diminish your pursuit of excellence, but consider pursuing a balanced application of technical skill with allowing your sacred self to flow through your voice.

How?

Reclaim the sacred nature of your voice. Your voice is one of the most sacred things about you. When you are ready to claim that once more, the most beautiful, exciting shifts will take place. Your experience of your voice is not about Doing It Right, but uncovering the purpose for your voice.

That’s right! Your voice has a sacred purpose. When you acknowledge this, it will be revealed to you.

Suddenly, plain ol’ vocal technique just isn’t quite as big a deal. You know?

Hugs,

allison

welcome to
The Studio!

I’m Allison Mondel, Transformational Voice Coach and big-hearted seeker on a mission to help others discover their innate, brilliant Sacred Voice, and transform their singing and their lives.

IMAGE: Photo by Octavian Rosca on Unsplash

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great arises out of small things

great arises out of small things

great arises out of small things

W R I T T E N  B Y  Allison Mondel

This post could also be entitled: The most unhelpful advice your Ego could ask for.

Because let’s be honest: we all want Great Things right now. And according to Eckhart Tolle, a remarkable spiritual teacher, the great things are simply an illusion. 

I recall when I first heard about Eckhart’s second book, “A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose.” I thought to myself: I WANT TO AWAKEN MY LIFE’S PURPOSE! 

Doesn’t everyone?

So I bought the book, I listened to him speak with Oprah (who’s a big fan), I watched him on YouTube, and I was ready for  Eckhart to tell me What I Should Do to get a quick and clear answer to my burning question. And when he told me what that was, my first thought was: THIS IS THE BIGGEST LOAD OF B.S. I HAVE EVER HEARD.

Because he wouldn’t tell me what I was supposed to do. Rather he told me that I need to inhabit the present moment and… allow

This is a quieter, more spacious kind of inner work. It is a break from the concept of implementation, and instead we encounter (and accept the value of) discovery

So it goes in our creative work, as well.

Are you hungry for answers, too? For a method? A way to fix/adjust/develop your voice? Do you want to know the purpose for your creative voice? There are four very important things to know:

1) Your voice is capable of the things that you desire. It does not require fixing. It requires a quieter, more accepting Self who is able to mindfully curate the use and care of your voice.

2) You need to provide a safe inner space for your creative unfolding. Get the Ego in check and be wise to her/him: because the first thing she/he will do is tell you that THIS IS B.S. and do everything to sabotage you from that space of inner listening.

3) You need to accept the process of the unfolding of your voice, and trust every little speck of information that is revealed to you as valid, and that your progress is marked by small steps, not great leaps.

4) You need to show up for yourself. Meaning, if you really truly desire a shift in your experience of your voice, you need to let go of your grip on what you “should” be doing or that you are not where you “should” be. But support yourself, and accept where you are, and get out of your own way of resisting the process.

This is a quote from Eckhart’s book (p. 266), in which he responds to questions from his hungry audience. I resonate with this question particularly, and am going to assume that you do, too. 

QUESTION: I am afraid of never rising above mediocrity, never daring to achieve anything great, not fulfilling my potential.

RESPONSE: The great arises out of small things that are honored and cared for. Everybody’s life really consists of small things. Greatness is a mental abstraction and a favorite fantasy of the ego. The paradox is that the foundation for greatness is honoring the small things of the present moment instead of pursuing the idea of greatness.

Our voice journey is brimming with small moments. Perhaps you have discovered some of those moments yourself. I hope you sense the power therein. Trust them. They are your stepping stones, your signposts, your way-showers.

The compass, however, is within your heart.

Our voice work is not to push or pull a few levers and expect answers to questions such as How Can I Not Embarrass Myself? Rather, listen and watch from a quieter place within. If those little things are the most important, then you need to be soft enough, quiet enough, spacious enough to catch them.

And accept that no matter where you are, you are on the way, and that the way is just right where you need to be.

Hugs,

allison

welcome to
The Studio!

I’m Allison Mondel, Transformational Voice Coach and big-hearted seeker on a mission to help others discover their innate, brilliant Sacred Voice, and transform their singing and their lives.

IMAGE: Photo by Henry & Co. on Unsplash

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journey of sacred voice expression

journey of sacred voice expression

journey of sacred voice expression

W R I T T E N  B Y  Allison Mondel

The discovery and cultivation of my Sacred Voice has been an exquisite and beautiful journey that I could ever hope to take. It has morphed into an integral aspect of my vocation. As a coach, it is my privilege to lead others on their own, unique telling of this voice journey.

Recently I experienced what some would call a “download” (although I am not fond of this particular expression). I had and felt and knew, in a clear moment, an understanding of the continuum of our experience with our voice. It is called the Journey of Sacred Voice Expression, and it is the experience we have with our Sacred Voice throughout our lifetime.

For me, the Sacred Voice is that personal expression of the divine within: the actual source of your voice. It is the vehicle through which the metaphysical becomes physical, as we emit vibrations sourced from our intentions.

I have written a lot about the joys and potential of the Sacred Voice, as well as the limitations that hinder us from expressing it.

I believe that this paradigm of understanding our voice journey is so helpful, in that we can  know where we fall upon the continuum. By doing so, we have an understanding of where we are, where we are heading, and where we are held back.

Indeed, there are hindrances that we encounter along the journey. (Otherwise, what kind of journey would it be?)

Indeed, discovering and healing these tender places within us are integral to help us to discover the value and beauty of our voice. I believe every one of us has a voice that is deep and powerful, strong with purpose and potential, ready to be claimed.

I see and experience the joys struggles firsthand, walking the stepping stones of my own voice journey, as well as seeing them in the experiences of my students.

Signposts Along the Journey

Why do we desire to move forward on our journey? What do we seek? And why do we deny ourselves the very same?

It is partly unconscious. I believe that our vocal limitations are so normalized, and speaking about them feels taboo. It is not common practice to address the deeply-rooted fears we have in using our voice. 

But I believe it is utterly necessary to allow ourselves the release and freedom that comes from healing and letting go of our deepest fears and shame around our voice. Our fears are self-limitations. They are embedded in various ways throughout our lifetime and beyond. 

If we desire to move further along the journey to greater expression of our voice, to discover and manifest its deeper purpose, then we must heal and release our self-limitations.

Here are the signposts along the Journey of Sacred Voice Expression. Each step along the journey is the fulfillment of several key elements. When we accept and allow these aspects, we live into a deeper experience. We move forward along the journey.

1) Heed your Impulse

Our voice is a natural and authentic expression of our Self. You likely have felt that inner drive to sing and make sound. But we can only express ourselves when we feel safe to sing. When we do, we are primed to deepen our relationship with our voice. And further, when we accept and allow that our voice is:

  • Unique
  • Personal
  • Heartcentered

we are able to move into the next phase.

2) Embody your Instrument

Here we learn about the nature of our voice. Not just its physical properties, but its connection and integration with all parts of our self. When we accept and allow that our voice has:

  • Power
  • Vulnerability
  • Radiance

we move into the next phase.

3) Honor Your Sacredness

Your voice is sacred in nature. It is sourced from the divine, and is so much more than your human body and its physical parts. When we accept and allow:

  • Surrender
  • Freedom
  • Peace

we move into the next phase.

4) Express Your Purpose

What happens when we follow the initial impulse to use our voice, allow its authentic expression, marry it to spirit, and surrender our will to that sacredness within us? When we accept and allow our soul-led expression, we discover:

  • Transcendence
  • Union
  • Potential

Next Steps

The Journey is not fixed. Indeed, it is fluid. Our way is informed by our state of being, state of consciousness, mood, personality swings, and our emotional weather. We may be scared to death one day, and the next discover some ecstatic union with our highest self.

The purpose and goal of laying out this pathway is to better understand where we are on our own path. The journey of discovering our voice can sometimes feel confusing, overwhelming, and rudder-less. I hope that this outlay may help us to define our goals with greater clarity, as well as understand where we may be entangled, and how we can move forward.

If we seek to move forward, to taste and experience the sacredness of our voice, we can. This is one kind of roadmap. May it serve you, Dear One, on your journey of discovery.

Hugs,

allison

welcome to
The Studio!

I’m Allison Mondel, Transformational Voice Coach and big-hearted seeker on a mission to help others discover their innate, brilliant Sacred Voice, and transform their singing and their lives.

IMAGE: Photo by Mohamed Nohassi on Unsplash.

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replace strife with wonder

replace strife with wonder

replace strife with wonder

W R I T T E N  B Y  Allison Mondel

When I was in graduate school, a small but stout music conservatory, I had to take one of the most lethal classes: Graduate Seminar. Required for all grad students, it was a hodge-podge of this and that, overseen by the conservatory’s director. 

I was in there with every manner of student, but it was terribly lonely. I had no solidarity buddies from the Early Music department, and anytime we stepped out of talking about performance (like learning Schenkerian analysis or whatever) I was lost. I am pretty sure I cried.

Except every once in a while, we had a guest speaker: Benjamin Zander, a motivational speaker who would blow off all of our grumpy, overwhelmed, self-conscious, conservative conservatory tops. He would say things like, “Sit in the front row of your life!” and I would sit there and think, “yes, I will!” and then look around at the class and wonder, “is this amazing to everyone else, too? What the hell is going on right now? Is it safe to participate with joy and show that this is utterly life-changing?” 

Zander introduced me to the art of The Reframe. I have fairly described myself as a myopic musician. I was not evolved or self-aware enough at that time to consider the potential of this perspective and his excellent advice. But I have never forgotten.

I recall him telling a parable about some Student who kept Messing Up. Over and over and over again, the same bloody mistake: a rut. You know that student, right? It’s you and me. What is our typical response?

I am so stupid! I suck! What’s wrong with me? I am never going to get it! Duh, I should know better! Etc, etc.

Zander suggested a reframe. Rather than, “Oh shit, I did it again, why not… how fascinating?” (I’m pretty sure that is word for word, even after twenty years!)

This was an indelible moment for me. It has shaped my journey of personal growth and completely altered the path of my voice practice. 

Dear One: you are going to make mistakes. You are going to make some clunkers. You are going to look funny. You are going to kick yourself. I’m sorry. I do it, too. But be wise about it. Mistakes are not a character flaw: they are an essential element of our humanity. But let them teach you.

What happens when you reframe your mistakes into valuable lessons?

I know it is much easier to berate yourself, but that will not serve you in any way, whatsoever. So the next time you have to, say, record yourself (which I did the other day: good times!), and you keep seeing or hearing that thing that is bothering you, try to absorb it rather than reject it.

I keep doing that Thing I don’t want to do. How fascinating!

Here is the jewel of understanding: when you bring an unconscious pattern to light, you evolve. You stop making the damn mistake. It is only possible to bring the unconscious to light when we take the timeand have the willingnessto understand our patterns.

Mr. Zander’s appearance those dreary mornings in seminar were potentially more impactful than any musical training I received at school. His ideas gave me an understanding that it is not simply the content of what we offer as musicians, but it is about our wholeness as beings who vessel that content. But we are all simply too blinded by our faults to see the true power and potency of what we do. 

So please, try to gain some perspective. With your singing, at least! 

The next time you make a bloop (which you will), or are disappointed with your performance (which you will), or pull back in fear (which you will), STOP the critique. Assess the situation. Here is my personal reframe of Mr. Zander’s question:

What is really going on here?

I swear it will help. I probably ask myself this question ten times per day. It is honestly harder to ask when I sing, but that, to me, is the most important time.

Because I recognize that my mistakes are borne of my fears. And when I can shed light on my fears (even teensy ones), they are transformed into feedback. Feedback that can help me change my habits and undo those tendencies that irk me the most and hold me back. Feedback that can help me heal.

Try reframing in your practice. Remove the Strife, and replace it with Wonder. It works. You will feel better and sing better. You will show up with greater authenticity and self-regard. You will become that vessel of something that is much greater than we can possibly conceive.

You just have to get out of the way first.

Hugs,

 

allison

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I’m Allison Mondel, Transformational Voice Coach and big-hearted seeker on a mission to help others discover their innate, brilliant Sacred Voice, and transform their singing and their lives.

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What song should I sing?
What song should I sing?

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to err is human
to err is human

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on being capable: an essential teaching
on being capable: an essential teaching

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